When The Dating Game Becomes The Waiting Game

Saturday, July 30, 2016

When I was old enough to realize that boys didn’t have cooties, like most young teen girls, I let my world revolve around the mystery that is the teenage boy, as well as the game that dating has become. 

After a multitude of heartbreaks, nights ugly crying, and too many pints of Ben and Jerry’s, I found myself in need of a dating hiatus. I decided to take time, not to “find myself,” but to find Christ in me (Galatians 2:20). It was during this time that I realized many things. 

First, it's time we stop trying to force relationships, and let God do His thing. His plans are always so much better than ours. So, the best thing we can do is wait (I know, so uncommon in our generation) and pray (1 John 5:14). Also, it’s time we stop looking for someone to change us, and leave that up to Christ, who is way better at it than we are. 

But, above all else, we should stop searching for “the one” and believe that the only one we will ever need is God because there is no perfect, magical person who is going to come into our life and make all of our fairytales come true. The truth is that we’re all broken people. There is no person out there who won’t fail us no matter how many promises they make. Relationships will always be hard, but if you make your will God’s will (Matthew 26:38), and you still want a spouse, congratulations!

Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

So what does this mean? Psalm 37:4 doesn’t mean that if you follow God, and you want a new car that one is magically going to appear with your name written all over it. It means that if we make our desires the same as God’s desires, He will give them to us. 

So, all you singles out there can quit worrying about being forever alone, and start praising God in the wait.  It means you should take the time God has blessed you with, and use it to grow deeper in Him. 

Take the time, also, to become the future wife/husband that your spouse deserves by studying the Word.

Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for this time You’ve given me to be alone with You. I pray that You change my heart to see this time and everything around me the way You do, Lord. Remind me that Your will is far better than mine in the times that forget. But, most importantly, thank You for sending Your Son to show me what true love looks like, that I may want for nothing else.

Your Turn
Do you find yourself searching for the one instead of knowing that God is the only one?
What desires have you not given to God?
What is the hardest part of the wait for you, and what can you do to overcome it?

Written By: Parker Paschall

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